How is Your Self Talk?

Do you wake up every day feeling amazing? What is the first thing you say to yourself every day?

I used to hate mornings. In fact, it was difficult to drag myself out of bed much before 9am.

What has this got to do with self-talk you might ask?

Don’t worry, I’ll get to that in a sec…

Backstory

Growing up, we lived opposite the high school which was a good thing! I had it down to a fine art to be up at 8.50am and be sitting at my desk in the classroom at 9 o’clock on the dot!

This carried on for many years and although things improved and I eventually got into a routine of getting up around 7am, it was still a struggle to wake up feeling on top of the world.

And who doesn’t want that right?

Since moving to the Sunshine Coast of Queensland almost 7 years ago, things have totally flipped around!

Queensland doesn’t observe daylight saving so in the summer, the first light is around 4.30am.

This took a bit of getting used to for me, although my husband loved it. He’s always been an early riser (which I found totally annoying!) He loves to be in the surf or on his bike before sunrise.

However as we progressed into our first summer here, I realised that getting up early was the only way I could get all my daily exercise in before it got too hot.

So I got into the habit of going to bed early – I’m talking around 8pm!

This led to getting up at 5am.

It didn’t take long to get into this new rhythm and I honestly can’t imagine ever going back.

So this leads me to the topic of this post.

Self talk and the words that you say to yourself

Self development has always been a massive part of my life’s journey. One of the many memorable books I have read (which is yellowed from age, dog eared and full of different coloured highlights!) is a book called What To Say When You Talk To Yourself.

I was fortunate enough to interview the author, Dr Shad Helmstetter, in my first virtual summit last year – Stand Out And Be Seen.

Dr Helmstetter shared so many valuable lessons with my audience and it was an incredible honour to spend time with him.

I discovered many years ago that what we say when we talk to ourselves is incredibly important. Not just from this book but from other books and through my training in hypnotherapy and Rapid Transformational Therapy.

I’ve reread Dr Helmstetter’s book many times over the years. One of those times was when I started getting up at 5am. Although I found it easy to wake up, I still had that incessant, negative chatter in my head about mornings.

😠 Oh I’ve got so much to get done today!
😠 Do I have to get up already?
😠 Will I ever achieve my goals?

You get the picture. On and on it went.

So I decided to use one of the scripts from the book and rewrite it to get rid of my negative self talk.

I’d written and used many scripts before. In a matter of weeks, sometimes days, I would notice the difference with my self talk. So why not write a morning one!

I’ve been using this script every day for over six years and there has been a vast improvement in so many areas of my life.

I would love to share it with you. Hopefully it may inspire you to think about what you say to yourself as soon as you wake up.

Here goes ….

Your Best Day Ever

Today is the best day ever.
I woke up feeling alive, focused and on fire.
I am energised and had the most incredible night’s sleep.
With every breath I take I feel myself becoming more and more aligned with the flow, the energy that creates worlds.
I see my desires already obtained and I embrace the joy that I feel knowing that the love, life, success and prosperity that are rightfully mine, are already in my life right now.
I am so excited about my productivity levels today, there’s something in the air and I feel more focused and centred on my goals, priorities and objectives than ever.
I feel my desires bubbling forth with incredible clarity and I clearly know what to do, when to do it and how to do it.
I am inspired to be at the right place at the right time and to say the right things for the highest and best possible experience today.
I am grateful that I am healthy, happy and have a wonderful day ahead of me.

Now when I wake up, this is immediately what I say to myself.

Sometimes just once and other times, if that negative, nagging voice wants to pipe up, I’ll repeat it a few times.

How to memorise it

You might be wondering how I memorised this and how it just flows for me now.

What I did was to record it on my iPhone and listen every morning. I would play the first few sentences, pause and repeat it out loud. Then play a few more, pause and repeat those out loud. I continued this over and over, for many days until I had committed the whole thing to memory.

Now whenever I wake up, this is the first thing that springs to my mind. I don’t repeat it out loud any more but say it to myself.

As you can imagine, the difference it has made to my mindset over the years has been huge.

I hope this has inspired you to be aware of what you say to yourself, not just when you first awaken, but throughout the day.

As I mentioned earlier, I’ve got loads of scripts that are both recorded and that I have memorised over the years.

I use various ones throughout the day, depending on what’s going on and which one is needed to drown out any negativity.

It doesn’t come up nearly as often as it used to, but it is a daily practice that I highly recommend to stay positive, motivated and happy.

Let me know if this resonates with you and if you want to learn more, I really encourage you to check out the book. If you want access to the interview I did with Dr Helmstetter, along with 30 other incredible speakers, you may be interested in the Stand Out And Be Seen Masterclass Series.

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